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reviewing vampires & book clubs

August 8, 2023 by Angela Leave a Comment

Last week, I wrote about my current state of not reviewing a lot of books. The funny thing is, that post devolved from what was going to be my first book review in a while. My brain basically said, “to make a long story short” and then proceeded to tangentially discuss something instead of telling the story. Then I thought about how I’ll be gone for all of “next Tuesday,” which is “today” in post scheduling time, and I decided to write the review anyway.

Now I feel pressure for this one, since I’ve written so much about it before even titling the review. And it doesn’t matter much at all, because it’s not a new book by any means. (The title of the book looked long and clunky in the post title.) So, with much ado…

What I thought of The Southern Book Club’s Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix

Books about book clubs, and book clubs in general, get interesting quickly. Questions abound: Are we reading serious fiction? Current best-sellers? Books that changed someone’s life? Who gets to decide? Is it a democracy or an autocracy or really just an opportunity to toss a book in your bag and drink wine, eat snacks, and hang out with friends?

All of those answers are correct, of course, and the three book clubs in The Southern Book Club’s Guide to Slaying Vampires encompass a variety of them throughout the story. The core book club encompasses five unlikely friends and a penchant for true crime stories, though they barely call themselves a book club and one of the member’s husbands thinks they’re doing a Bible study each month.

Spanning almost a decade, the book follows what happens when a southern housewife discovers a terrible secret about her new neighbor, an attractive bachelor on whom she performs CPR while delivering a casserole after his great-aunt severs her earlobe. I know that’s a description you likely haven’t read before, and it’s indicative of the entire story.

I adored this book.

The five friends each manage their homes and their families in slightly different ways, and their relationships with their husbands and children are all slightly different — until they’re not.

Like the title states, this book is about vampires, but it’s also about misogyny and perception and community and the way white women sometimes espouse unity until it means making hard decisions about their own actions. Relationships between friends and between spouses are tested in unexpected ways, and the (I think I can say) universal maternal fear of failing our children pervades each decision made by Patricia Campbell, the central character of the novel.

Broken into sections based on what Patricia’s book club(s) are reading, the novel dives into the mind of a southern housewife who makes both bold moves and tentative, disastrous mistakes in an effort to save her family and her own identity. I’m not southern, but I’m drawn to books about the south, particularly stories of women navigating their lives and balancing their identities and strength with a system determined to keep them under some sort of control.

To circle back, though, this book is about vampires — and not of the romantic variety. A few of the scenes feel like nightmares, and they’re not for the faint of heart. Consider that a warning, though it’s possible to skim through those sections without losing the thread of the plot.

For certain readers, I highly recommend this book. It might end up as one of my favorites of the year, though I don’t think my mom should attempt it nor anyone prone to extreme squeamishness when faced with expertly descriptive prose.

Filed Under: Reading

managing time & open tabs

August 7, 2023 by Angela Leave a Comment

I wrote about time blocking the other day, though admittedly it’s not working for me the way I thought it might. However, as I mapped out the week, I knew I wouldn’t feasibly be able to post today. I planned a post for tomorrow, but I wanted to wake up early to post today, which feels more in spirit with my “daily blogging in August” goal. However, when I thought about how many things I needed to finish before leaving for up North — grocery pickup for Mom, her doctor’s appointment, a quick obligatory task at the preschool, a workout — I started blocking and realistically realized I couldn’t make writing work.

I’m trying to get better about not short-changing myself when it comes to time. I don’t want to set unrealistic expectations I can’t meet and then feel guilty when my alarm buzzes at 4:15 a.m. I decided I’d schedule my post for Monday, writing it Sunday evening, with the hope I’d have some time on Wednesday to write when we returned. Leaving it unwritten in the hopes of an early Monday feels like the open tabs on my computer. (I’m currently looking at a recipe for lemon-poppyseed bread that I’m not likely to actually make, a site to order an inexpensive practice tiara for Abbey, email, and a workout plan that looks interesting in the way that something new and shiny looks when you’re feeling unmotivated.

It’s only a small thing, today’s scheduling of tomorrow’s post, but it makes me feel better know that figurative tab is closed in anticipation of a busy Monday. Of course, I don’t have much to write about, since I already wrote a post Sunday, one in which I wrote about the gloomy weather.

I supposed I can end this one on that note as well, as it started to rain again. This time, however, I’m thinking about it differently than I did earlier in the day. If I close my eyes for a moment, it sounds like a sound machine, surrounding our house with a cozy cocoon against the evening. I think of the beauty of the word petrichor, both the actual sound and the concept of, “a pleasant smell that frequently accompanies the first rain after a long period of warm, dry weather.” Perhaps a gloomy day doesn’t have to stifle productivity after all.

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gloomy

August 6, 2023 by Angela Leave a Comment

The sky looks flat today, a pale color between white and gray without a cloud to be seen through the window. It’s not gray like rain is coming, though it has rained intermittently throughout the day, casting dampness over our Sunday. The sky is simply devoid of flashes of sunshine that always make me feel happier and more productive.

My girl told me she watched a video about productivity to try to motivate herself a little, and all it did was motivate her to be productive tomorrow. I know that feeling on Sundays, especially gloomy Sundays like this one, where everything feels like it would be better suited to be done tomorrow. We played a goofy game for distraction, but ended up laughing more than playing, and we abandoned it as quickly as I abandoned most of my task list for the day.

The things I’ve done so far today are small. A little laundry, but not all of it. A little organizing, but definitely not much. A grocery order I’ll pick up later.

I need to pack for a couple nights away with friends, but I’m dragging my feet, though I put together a packing list for Dylan. We’re excited to go, but I’m slightly sad to be splitting our family, only a few weeks after getting Abbey back with us after her summer dance program. I sleep better when we’re all together under one roof, whether it’s ours or someone else’s, so I know I’ll toss and turn while gone. Truthfully, I haven’t been sleeping well lately, so I guess it won’t feel all that different.

Gloomy.

Maybe it’s not just the weather. Maybe it’s in my head more than I’d like to admit. I’ll look for some sunshine, but I’m not sure I’m going to get to that until tomorrow.

Filed Under: Musings

thinking about book reviews

August 5, 2023 by Angela Leave a Comment

I set a goal at the beginning of the year to basically read a book a week, though I made the goal 50 instead of 52. I don’t remember my reasoning, because I don’t think reading needs a two week vacation each year, but since I’m currently slightly ahead of the goal I’m keeping it.

I used to review almost every book I read. I believe it helps smaller titles gain momentum, and any independent author can tell you reviews matter to the ever-looming “algorithm” of what gets shown during searches.

At some point, I basically stopped reviewing. I’m not going to lie; I made it cumbersome. I got in my own way. I tried to keep up with a paper reading journal, adding the reviews to both my blog and Goodreads in turn, writing then typing then saving. I’d forget to do some and spend several hours doing it, trying to comb back through my memory (not the greatest, to be honest), especially when I’d binge read five similar thrillers during vacations.

I tried different systems. A list on the blog with links to the books and a picture of the cover. Links to my Goodreads reviews. Links to stand-alone reviews on the blog. Books that didn’t link to anything at all. Short reviews on the blog list. Mini-reviews on Instagram.

Right now, I’m not sure I have a system at all, except I try to star everything and add the dates to my Goodreads page.

Oh, and I struggle with stars. I used to give lots of things threes, but that didn’t seem to correlate with what other people did. For me, three was pretty much, “I enjoyed this and would recommend it to certain people.” Four meant, “I loved this and would recommend it to most people.” Five, for years, was more like, “This book lives in my perpetual top ten. This book changed my life.” Then I started to understand three wasn’t really a “good” rating among many of the readers I respect. I started giving more fours.

Now, almost everything gets a four. Fives are more like, “one of my faves of the year” instead of “I will adore this forever, both for appreciation of craft, meaning, and overall impact on my life.” So basically, the stars don’t mean as much to me as they used to.

Aside: I would LOVE a system that was more like: I would recommend this book to people who liked X, Y, or Z or I would recommend this for people who enjoy thrillers, unreliable narrators, and humor.

I don’t know, exactly. I do know that I rarely review books, and I feel like I need to get back to that.

Filed Under: Musings, Reading

early mornings

August 4, 2023 by Angela Leave a Comment

Yesterday I wrote in the morning. My mom had a doctor’s appointment, and I woke up too late to work out but early enough that I had a bit of time to spare before leaving. The rest of the house slept, and I sat at my desk and put together a few words into a post. I forgot the quiet of writing while everyone else sleeps, the certainty that I shouldn’t be doing anything else in that exact moment. I miss that type of quiet.

I wish I could will myself awake every morning, but I press snooze most days and burrow back into my pillow. Soon, I will be waking before everyone else but in a mad rush to get things done before everyone else awakes, too. School days make it hard to fit everything into a morning routine. If I don’t work out in the morning, I’m unlikely to do it the rest of the day, except for a possible walk later in the evening. Trying to fit writing into that sliver of time usually doesn’t happen.

Some summers I try to creep my alarm earlier and earlier as school gets closer, so I don’t feel shocked when it starts to go off before 5:00 a.m. It feels tough to do that this summer, because I’m staying up too late, and the kids are up late, and basically I’m making excuses for not doing it. (It’s currently 11:32 a.m., so I am not writing this in a house where everyone is sleeping.)

Tomorrow, I will try to get up a little earlier, and maybe earlier still the day after that.

Filed Under: Musings, Writing

time slips and other truths

August 3, 2023 by Angela Leave a Comment

I keep reading about how block scheduling can help you feel more in control of your day, and I’m attempting it. I try to build margins of time into my day, because I get frustrated when I feel busy and don’t feel like I tackled nearly enough on my to-do list. I make sure I’m not shoving things against each other, keeping space between the blocks.

It’s not helping.

I still wonder where time went. I find myself driving kids places I didn’t expect or spending more time that I expected doing laundry or making dinner or any number of things I know are a waste of time — talking to the cat, scrolling the internet, changing passwords I can’t remember and have to retrieve through a complicated process of two-factor authentication and hope.

Most days I discover I’m missing one of the five habits I’m truly trying to instill this month. These aren’t complicated habits — water drinking, certain workouts, meditation, cleaning tasks, journalling in one form or another. Yet I can’t seem to fit in all five on any given day, which doesn’t make sense because really it’s only a few hours out of the day, max, and I don’t work in the summer. I mean, I work, but I don’t go to my job, so I feel like those few hours should be easy to block into my day. I could understand when the kids were young, and they demanded a lot of my time. Mostly, these days, they entertain themselves (except for my Uber duties). They’ll chat with me if I seek them out, but they’re also happy playing video games, moving furniture around in their rooms, working out, or hanging out with friends.

So far, all three days this month, I’ve basically written about how my life has kind of devolved into missed opportunities and mismanaged time. Maybe by seeing it in writing, I’ll be able to make some small changes to build on each other before the beginning of the school year arises. After all, my days don’t get less messy when the kids are in school.

(Just in case we’re keeping track, which I totally am…Out of five tasks today, I only did three. Out of five habits, I only did three. I might still meditate. We’ll see.)

Filed Under: Musings

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